Tuesday, September 2, 2008
"Friendships"
So many times, I have found myself in the search for a true friend. I bet we all have. How many times have we not been "stabbed in the back" or even betrayed by those we thought were our "closest" friends? I can honestly say it has taken a while to find that true friend. Through time, I have learned friends come and go, it's a life experience. Many times, my friends were present to party and have a good time, but the minute something went wrong; when I saw my world closing in, no one was capable of showing their face, or extending a helping hand. It hurt to see how quick those friends of mine would disappear when the situation was not convenient for them. As I said, it is a lesson to be learned. My mother always told me "beware of those you call friends." I never understood that until one day when I realized I could count my true friends on one hand. It was not until a year ago when I found that true friend, the one who was willing to stick it out with me through the thick and thin. I am thankful for him. He goes by the name of Jeremy Daccarett; it took many obstacles, fights, and much time to find him. Sometimes life seats you at the front of a rollercoaster ride so when it's over, you learn to appreciate the good and do away with those who are not worth being in your life.
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This brought to mind a saying, something about how every person you meet is in your life for a reason: some people are in your life for a season, others for a lifetime. I can't remember the exact words, but something along those lines.
I have also been in search of a good friend. I haven't been "stabbed in the back" (that I know of), but I've had friends who have changed their priorities. The moment they have a boyfriend, I hardly ever saw them. It was always what their boyfriend wanted to do. Then I got very close to a girl I've known since 6th grade, and we became the best of friends. She didn't forget about me when she was with her boyfriends, she was the perfect loyal friend. We even planned to go to college together and take some of the same courses. But this summer, she moved to Milwaukee. I was so upset. I felt like I had just lost a sister. I still speak to her on the phone, but it's not the same. I know what it's like to have a good friend and what it feels like when they leave. I hope your friendship will last forever, and you two will stay together for a long time.
I understand where you're coming from. To me the true test of friendship later into the relationship (3 to 5 months or depending on how much you guys hang out). When you meet a new friend, you have a tendency to notice all their good qualities first. You continue to hang out with that person every week in order to get to know them better. Then as the relationship matures, you begin to see that person's flaws and insecurities. Now, if you're a true friend you will learn to like that person for his or her bad qualities as much as their good ones. If that person can do the same for you, then you know you got yourself a great friend to hang on to. I believe the same applies if you have significant other as well. Anyway, I'm glad you found yourself a good friend.
Its true that some friendships come and go. A true friend will always stick by you through thick and thin. I have been in your position, but I had my family to turn to.
I haven't read the rest of your posts. You may have already said something about this; if not, would you be willing to share in your blog something about how soon you knew that your friend/boyfriend/husband, what ever he is to you, was going to last.
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